I’m excited to interview Lizzy McGrory, who turned her own struggles to be a successful working mom into a coaching practice that helps working moms find their power from the inside out. She’s written a book about it, too, which is full of practical tips, advice and exercises. We believe this inner power the secret to success too! All the tools we need to succeed in work, life and everything in between, lie within us. For moms this sometimes seems like a stretch, but Lizzy and I are here to ensure you it’s not!
So sorry the Q&A wasnt’ working. Please ask questions in the comments below and we’ll keep the conversation going!
Here’s a little more info about Lizzy: Liz is a Working Mom herself. She’s the owner of Coach LizzyMc ~ Working Mom Coach and a Mother of three children under the age of 6. She is a Certified Professional Coach who coaches Working Moms to overcome their Motherhood Transition Challenges (MTC). She was voted Rookie Coach of the Year in 2013 by the International Coach Federation New England Chapter. Liz is also a professional blogger and speaker. She writes and speaks about MTCs such as returning from maternity leave, igniting your Mommy Energy, and career advancement. Liz’s love for writing, creativity, and helping others fueled her passion to be an author. Liz first book, “Igniting Mommy Energy”, was released on the first day of summer 2014. It’s available exclusively on Amazon.com.
Ever want to look into a crystal ball and see the future?
How will you lead in the rapidly changing future of work? Start by understanding that the workplace is changing and becoming more fluid. Organizations are beginning to resemble organic systems more than mechanical ones. People are the dominant value and system in the work-world and to succeed you must master human systems. Develop your emotional intelligence and soft-skills, and you’ll be the kind of leader the world needs in the future of work. Start with yourself.
In my last post about how there is a growing schism between the values held by employees and those held by their employers, and how it’s driving employees out the door.
I noted that 54% of millenials are planning on leaving their firms to try entrepreneurship. This is a big number, but even that is dwarfed by a study by Harris Interactive that found 74% of employees of all ages would look for another job if they could. The reasons? According to Alan Hall, Accenture reports that 31% don’t like their boss, 31% feel unempowered, 35% are tired of internal politics and 43% don’t feel recognized for their work.
A 74% level of employee dissatisfaction represents a costly vulnerability for companies, especially as affordable health care and technology reduce the costs for employees to take the risk of entrepreneurship. Projecting forward, the cost to a dissatisfied employee going out on their own is going down as a percentage of their annual salary, while the relative costs to the employer to replace them are on the rise. Today employers can spend 150% or more of a skilled employee’s annual salary recruiting and training their replacements.
While the cost to replace a low-skilled worker is decidedly less than this, many of the people leaving are the most emotionally intelligent and creative. When so many analysts point to both these qualities as keys to competitiveness, on a company- and economy-wide scale, creative brains draining from cubeville should be of concern to employers (though it might actually be good news for the entrepreneurial economy. Continue reading
People talk a lot about thought leadership, and we believe it’s a powerful success strategy available to women. But let’s get real, most of us don’t feel comfortable putting our big ideas out there because we’re don’t like to get negative feedback. We like how Dana takes this subject on, showing us how to transform this fear into a self-esteem success strategy. Don’t miss one of her upcoming thought leadership webinars for entrepreneurs or executives. – InPower Editors
In my work with professional women, ladder climbers and entrepreneurs alike, I see one particular challenge hold us back more than any other (no, I’m not immune): we are prone to take any kind of negative feedback personally, as though comments on our performance or ideas directly relate to our value as people.
I’m not alone in noting this problem in self-esteem for women, as early as 1989 researchers documented the fact that women take negative feedback personally (whereas men are more likely to filter it out or attribute it to factors outside themselves).
As I work with women to help them develop their inner power to lead and succeed, I find that most don’t want to “be like the guys” and develop an over-inflated sense of themselves, but they do want to develop authentic self-esteem strategies that allow them to invite feedback with confidence. The good news is that this is very possible! Continue reading
Sheryl Sandberg contributed many valuable insights to professional women in her book, Lean In. The one that hit me most squarely was her analogy of a career as a jungle gym instead of a ladder. Truer words have never been written, and I think this is a major contribution to the discussion of work-life “balance.”
The current mythology of success defines our career journey as a climb up the ladder. The ladder represents many things – all artifacts of the hierarchically structured industrial age economy (which, by the way, is being radically restructured as I write). The higher we go on the mythical ladder, the more money, influence, power and respect we get. This is why when women (and men!) “opt off” the ladder to pursue a more “balanced” life, the mythology defines them as unsuccessful until they acquire those same top-o-the-ladder treats via other means.
But what happens when you take away the ladder analogy and replace it with something resembling a jungle gym? A more integrated, geometric structure that offers progression in many directions, just not all at once?
When the analogy shifts, so do the definitions of success. In a jungle gym analogy, many of the same kinds of success are attainable, but not in any particular order. Our personal journey to find them becomes an individual search for “what’s next” in multiple directions instead of what’s next on a defined path. Our path becomes our own and our definition of success does too. Continue reading
Leadership advice runs rampant on the internet, which is fine because most of it comes from a place of wisdom and reflection.
If you’re a woman aspiring to lead, however, there is one tiny problem with this spew of “how to” and “Top 10” lists. Since our dominant leadership culture is male, the majority of the advice is largely designed to make men better leaders. In most cases, the advice is fine for women, too, but watch out because some of it can be disastrous to your career.
Specifically, ladies, keep an eye out for the leadership lessons trying to help men overcompensate for some testosterone-induced bad habits. These bad boss habits include lack of empathy, rigidity and egotism. On average, this is not your problem!
Here’s the catch for the women. On the whole – women are already very empathetic, flexible and happy to deflect credit. If you’re a high-potential woman, following advice that tells to you over-emphasize these traits is at best unnecessary and at worst will encourage you to go too far the wrong direction. You see, leaders have to have some inflexibility, emotional distance and healthy ego in order to effectively herd the cats and manage the chaos of modern business.
Simply put, while on average men could use a little more flexibility, empathy and humility, women – on average – could use a little less! Continue reading
Am I a feminist? My whole, half century life as a professional, a wife, a mother of two and now a women’s leadership advocate I’ve never had a comfortable answer to this question. While this might seem odd since I now run a women’s site, I know more women who feel this ambivalence about identifying a feminist than those who don’t. Maybe you feel this way too. On the bring of Women’s History Month starting tomorrow, I think it’s a good time to take a look at this question more deeply. Continue reading
I have great respect for the ways that Sheryl Sandberg, Anne-Marie Slaughter and Marissa Mayer are doing what they think is right and completely ignoring all the chatter about them on the web. They are doing what any man would do – running companies and professoring – and sparking a national debate on the issues of work-life, family and leadership.
They’re doing a great job, which is more than I can say for most of the rest of us. Continue reading
The same week Yahoo! rescinded teleworking policies for its employees, Best Buy did the same. Many pointed to the fact that Yahoo!’s working mom CEO got flack when Best Buy’s working dad CEO didn’t as unfair for gender inequity reasons. While I suspect that unfortunately Marissa Mayer was a better criticism target because she’s a woman/mom, I also think Yahoo! was a better target than Best Buy for pure branding reasons. Yahoo! builds exactly the kind of products designed to help work-at-home employees. On its face, then, Yahoo!’s rejection of such practices for its own employees looks like a brand misalignment. I mentioned this in a previous article and it generated a Twitter conversation that I thought deserved more than 140 characters. Continue reading