Cracking the Code on Personal Power in the Workplace

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Your best and brightest are burning out and falling off the leadership ladder, taking your employee turnover & engagement stats down with them. Learn more about what’s really going on beneath these trends and – more importantly – what you can do about it!

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Dealing with Difficult People

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There is simply no getting around the fact that difficult people will be in your life, but what about when they’re your boss? Or your partner? Or your most talented staff member? That’s when things get sticky for most of us. And by sticky I mean that the level of stress in our live pops the charts and we find life a lot less pleasant. What’s a reasonable person to do?

[Tweet “Yes, THEY are nuts. What are YOU going to do about it? via @DanaTheus”]

Well, let me give you the simple answer – stop being your part of the problem and take responsibility for aligning the relationship for productivity. Notice that I didn’t say “fix” the relationship? Your only job is to get to the point where the two of you get stuff done without giving each other an ulcer. That’s it.

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Fearless Feedback [Video]

 

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Communication is more than just getting your point across, it’s a continuous feedback loop. Constant, and open, feedback can motivate others to bring their best game to your project or team – or send them into a tail spin. How are they spending their energy? Focusing on results or avoiding a fight?

[Tweet “Does your feedback motivate them or shut them down?”]

Good feedback goes both ways and helps you stay tapped into why they show up at work to give your team their time and energy. With open feedback, you have the information you need to create a relationship that helps them grow so that they want to keep contributing to your business objectives. Win-win.

But sometimes this process gets broken.

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Toxic Employee Showdown

We all know a toxic employee or two, but do we stop to think about the cost of that person to the company or the mission? If you’re managing them, you should be! Here’s a quick cheat sheet to identify and strategize on how to deal with the most common toxic employee types.

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Communicating Powerfully in 2015

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Have you ever noticed how many leadership development resources emphasize effective communication? How many bosses will mark you down (or up!) for your communication skills? Have you ever thought about why it’s so important for your career success to be a good communicator?

In ancient times, some of the most powerful people in the tribe were the “magicians” who could cast “spells” with their words. While the popular image of a magician is someone who can recite certain words, the true power these tribal group leaders possessed what the ability to use words and nonverbal communication skillfully to express emotional and universal truths that resonated in their audiences. It was their ability to create an energetic way of BEING confident, assertive, receptive, courageous, agile and compassionate and then use multiple modes of expression to amplify this powerful state of being to the people around them with clarity and simplicity.

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Do You Confuse Emotions with Emotional Intelligence (EQ?)

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It often surprises my executive coaching clients how important their emotions are to their workplace success. Most of us have been trained to keep our emotions out of the office, so we let lag an ongoing investment in our Emotional Intelligence (EQ). Part of the problem is that investing in developing EQ is work that doesn’t always have an immediate payoff, and most of us are focused on results now! But part of the problem is a fundamental misunderstanding about what EQ is.

EQ is not having emotions, it’s understanding them, in ourselves and others and responding constructively.

We all have emotions, but most of us carry around errant assumptions and beliefs about them that cloud our ability to use them appropriately at work. Here are three common examples of misguided EQ that apply, whether it’s us or someone else who’s experiencing and/or expressing emotions.

  1. Strong emotions = I can’t handle it. Muted emotions are easy to ignore if you’re not sure how to react to them. Strong emotions are hard to ignore. Instead of learning how to understand and respond to strong emotions in the workplace, many of us believe they have no place in the office and assume that if someone expresses strong emotions, they “can’t handle it.” This plays out often between men and women. Women are socialized to be more comfortable expressing emotions generally, and because they have more experience they often know that expressing emotions is an awesome strategy for “handling it.”

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Decoding Leadership Presence: 3 Steps to Confidence

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Does someone with leadership presence always make a good leader? Can someone without presence lead effectively?

Many career gurus will say leadership presence is essential to becoming a good, and ladder-climbing, leader. In my experience, however, many good leaders get ahead with only a mild ability to be noticed when they enter the room, depending on the company’s leadership culture. In addition, research shows that confidence and presence often help you get ahead even if you don’t deserve it. Leaders who get ahead on confidence alone flame out and fall prey to the Peter Principle before they get to the top.

Bottom Line: There’s more to being a good leader than just confidence and presence.

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Can Empathy Help You Overcome Bias?

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Almost everyone deals with bias, and there are many strategies to deal with it, but we love Dana and Kate’s takes on InPowered strategies for confronting bias with empathy and humility. Enjoy a not-so-obvious-but-very-effective strategy to deal with awkward and unfair situations you find yourself in. – InPower Editors

One of the key things to understand about InPower is that accessing it often seems counter-intuitive. For example, the InPowered response to things that make you angry is to not be angry in your response. And by that I mean, truly not angry. An InPowered response to something unfair is to release your anger and any other negative emotions and respond from a place of peace, gratitude, and joy . . . or, if that isn’t going to happen, a place of mission, focus and patience. If you’re just trying to hide it, it won’t work. If you feel it, others will too.

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This is a pretty abstract concept though (counter-intuitive things usually are), so I’m always on the lookout for good examples. Recently I read a fantastic post by Kate Nasser that not only talked about the power of Empathy and Humility (great traits!) to help deal with bias and unfair situations, but gave some great examples from Kate’s own experience. Please enjoy her post!

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Does Women’s Emotional Intelligence Help Us Get Into Leadership?

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How well do you handle your emotions at work?

Too many women and men read that question as a damnation of women who can’t control their emotions in the office. In fact, it’s more important that you learn to use your emotions intentionally at work, than merely control them. And in the ability to use their emotions, both women and men have a potential advantage.

We might even start with, “Do your emotions help you do your job better?” They do! Emotional Intelligence is one of the most important business and leadership assets you can develop, but emotional intelligence doesn’t always look as “emotional” as most people think. Often, it’s the more subtle emotional clues that give you the “intelligence” to decode a tricky interpersonal situation, read a negotiating partner or motivate challenging employees (and employees in challenging situations.)

How does understanding these emotional clues really help you? Here’s a short list:

  • Reduce stress (yours and others’)
  • Build win-win relationships
  • Motivate yourself and others
  • Communicate more effectively
  • Give and receive constructive feedback
  • Run meetings
  • Handle difficult situations and people

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Working Moms Have Mommy Energy! [VIDEO INTERVIEW]

I’m excited to interview Lizzy McGrory, who turned her own struggles to be a successful working mom into a coaching practice that helps working moms find their power from the inside out. She’s written a book about it, too, which is full of practical tips, advice and exercises. We believe this inner power the secret to success too! All the tools we need to succeed in work, life and everything in between, lie within us. For moms this sometimes seems like a stretch, but Lizzy and I are here to ensure you it’s not!

So sorry the Q&A wasnt’ working. Please ask questions in the comments below and we’ll keep the conversation going!

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Here’s a little more info about Lizzy: Liz is a Working Mom herself. She’s the owner of Coach LizzyMc ~ Working Mom Coach and a Mother of three children under the age of 6. She is a Certified Professional Coach who coaches Working Moms to overcome their Motherhood Transition Challenges (MTC). She was voted Rookie Coach of the Year in 2013 by the International Coach Federation New England Chapter. Liz is also a professional blogger and speaker. She writes and speaks about MTCs such as returning from maternity leave, igniting your Mommy Energy, and career advancement. Liz’s love for writing, creativity, and helping others fueled her passion to be an author. Liz first book, “Igniting Mommy Energy”, was released on the first day of summer 2014. It’s available exclusively on Amazon.com.

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